Have You Stopped Producing Your Best Work? If So, You Probably Are Missing This Key Ingredient.

Getting real, tough feedback doesn’t have to cut like a knife. Instead it can open the window for great results in your work.

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BY Antonio Neves - 01 Dec 2017

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If you're striving to make progress on anything meaningful in your career, what you need most is something that I like to call "good friction."

What is good friction, exactly? It's another way to describe getting real, constructive feedback that asks the tough questions, helps us find our footing so we can get traction, and pushes us to be a little better in our work and everyday lives.



The rub is that even for the most confident professionals among us, finding and dealing with good friction can be challenging. How do you get pushed just hard enough outside of your inc-aseann.comfort zone without being knocked flat on your back from fear of failure?


Think of the last time someone gave you feedback, solicited or not, on a project you worked hard on or care about deeply. Whether the feedback came from your boss at work or from a long-trusted friend, if you're like most of us, chances are you first heard the feedback as criticism. Maybe you even got defensive and thought, "What do they know anyway? ... Idiot."


If that sounds familiar, don't be too hard on yourself. This response is perfectly normal. Sharing our work with others - whether it be a blog post, a work project we busted our butt on, that piece of jewelry you made at your kitchen table, or that novel you've been toiling away at for years - is inherently vulnerable. Even if we know the feedback will help us, it can be hard to digest sometimes.


But getting real, tough feedback doesn't have to cut like a knife. How can you learn to be, well, more open to learning? Because what we miss when we get defensive to feedback is an opportunity to learn, get curious, and improve work that's important and meaningful to you.


Next time you find yourself getting constructive criticism, remind yourself of these important lessons:


1. Getting feedback provides an opportunity


The opportunity is to ask ourselves how will this good friction make my project better and push me farther than I've ever gotten before? The simple act of asking this question opens us up to true growth and development, even if what we hear isn't always easy to digest.


2. The best don't avoid good friction


The best seek out good friction. If you have the opportunity to get constructive criticism from a trusted source, say yes.


3. Growth inc-aseann.comes from friction


Good friction is your friend. It makes you feel uninc-aseann.comfortable because you're growing.


In all that you do, I encourage you to seek more, not less, good friction.


Create a good friction mechanism for all the projects that matter most to you. Identify peers in your network who have expertise and/or experience in your area. Then ask them for their feedback on your latest work - and be open to repaying the favor. Because the better you are at providing good friction, the more open you'll be to receiving it, too.

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